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| You can have a better life if you believe it. |
Hargeisa, has always been a place of self discovery and rebirth for me and during this period, it put a lot of things that were fragmented in my life and brought it all together and made a total picture that made sense to me. After I had left I knew what I wanted and that was to marry and have children. I had other goals too and that I will let you know when I achieve it.
Well, I did get married to my best friend and I do have a beautiful baby boy. So you see, "you ask and ye shall receive it". From this experience, I had learned that you can not rush your destiny, no matter how much you want things to happen your away, it will take its natural course and when you really are truly ready things will fall in to place. But you have to want it, really want what you are aiming for, whether it is your career, goals, relationships or whatever you are trying to achieve. You have to be honest with yourself and your real intention, no need to pretend or even utter untruths as they have a tendency to come true. Be humble, arrogance never got anyone anywhere.
Also, check your standards as, God knows, we can be very superficial's at times and we can convince ourselves that the person we are searching for or the thing that we are aiming for might not be what we really want. It is good to want a guy that is from a good family or has a career. But, that should not be the sole aim of your goals. Get to know the person, the real person and what they are about. Money and status rarely equates a good guy that will make a good home with you.
If it is a career you after, then find out what you good at, what is your talent, what makes you smile, what can you do all day that you wont see it as work? Then that would be the thing that will make you money and personal fulfilment.
Also, one thing you have to do is really to question the people you surround yourself, you might have wonderful friends, but, they may not be good for your growth. I have met a plenty of girls who are in toxic friendships with their female friends, where they will complain whine about all the bad guys in this world, how they want this and that and rather then being objective advisers in your life, they act as miserable cheer leaders that celebrate you being stuck at the same place as them. If your looking for a partner and your female best friend is whining about how there is bad guys every where, all I say is run from her as her negativity will be more contagious then an ebola virus. I always find that the more educated a woman is the greater her arrogance and the more likely she isolates her self. Being little humble never hurt anyone. If your friend is bad for your love life, sorry but shift her off for the moment until you get yourself together unless your desire is to be an OLD HAS BEEN SPINSTER.
Anyway, I digress, life most of the time, is what you make of the experiences that come your way, you will meet people that lie about you, try to besmirch your character or tarnish your image in conversations. All that truly does not matter, it is about your confidence, your aims, the way you apply yourself and target your goals in life. As a friend of mind said to me once "hurt people will take a dig at you, but you dig the life you want". So forget, about others and "do you for now", get yourself together, it is not other people who you live for it is you who has to live your life in your own way. Let others judge you whilst you live the life you want. So live your LIFE AND PROSPERS!!!!!!!!!!!




